Out the window she fell. Thankfully, it was only a few feet from the ground, but it still must have hurt. John couldn’t believe what he was seeing. The couple next door was at it again. Though they did a pretty good job of hiding their marital problems, it looked like things had finally gotten out of control. Never did he imagine it would come to this. The husband had literally pushed his wife out the window. John quickly turned his head as if he hadn’t seen it, got in his car, and headed off to work.
All throughout the day, the unforgettable scene bubbled up in his mind. Finally, he just had to tell someone. As you might guess his co-workers found it a bit hard to believe but John assured them it really happened. “They’ve been having trouble for some time now,” he told them, “but I never would have believed things were this bad. I really feel sorry for the woman,” John continued. “She seems like such a sweet lady.”
It wasn’t long before John’s story spread throughout the office and others were asking him all the details. As John did his best to tell them what he had seen along with the little bit he knew about the couples marital trouble, somehow the story seemed to grow and become even more convincing. Actually, before it was all over with, some of John’s co-workers were so enraged that they decided to call the abuse hotline to have things investigated.
It wasn’t until John got home that everything suddenly changed. There on the lot, where his neighbor’s house once stood was a pile of smoldering ashes and charred remains. John’s heart sank when he finally learned what had really happened. The whole time he had thought that his neighbor was being abusive to his wife by throwing her out the window; in reality, he was saving her life.
I’m assuming by now you realize that this story is made up to communicate a very important principle and here it is. Just because we see something that is true doesn’t mean that we know the truth. Let me explain. You see it was true that John saw his neighbor throwing his wife out the window, but the truth was he was saving her life not abusing her. If you stop and think about it, we all fall into this trap more than we like to admit. For whatever reason, we’re allowed to see what someone does, but not why they do it. I have found that God is much more interested in the why than the what.
Ever since the time that Adam and Eve ate from the tree of Knowledge of good and evil, mankind has strutted around thinking they know what’s really going on. The truth is we really don’t. Oh, I know we think we do, but let’s be honest. How often do we judge people based on what we see on the outside with absolutely no clue of what’s really going on in their life? We see someone dressed a certain way and driving a certain car and suddenly we think we know right where they’re coming from. I’ve learned it’s just not that way. So what’s the answer?
1Corinthians 4:5 says this: “Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts.” Simply put, if we will resist the temptation to judge others, God will show us what we need to know right when we need to know it.